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Taking The Good with the Bad

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Taking The Good with the Bad By: Ryan D. Daniels
Friday before last you could not tell me ANYTHING. I had just purchased my dream car, a Mercedes Benz SUV. I had just got a job offer on the spot at the type of school I dream of working at (well funded, great teacher pay, and in a diverse area). Sunday morning I woke up depressed wondering where it had all gone wrong. Saturday night as I was traveling back from an event at my alma mater, Elizabeth City State University, I’d crashed my own car trying to avoid hitting a deer as I coming off an exit. I was two minutes away from my apartment and my mind had been on getting home and devouring my Panera Bread leftovers.

I’m Not Bob The F*ckin’ Builder (And Neither Are You!)

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I’m Not Bob The F*ckin’ Builder (And Neither Are You!) By: Ryan D. Daniels
“Can we fix it?” “Yes, we can!” “Can you fix it?” “No, the f*ck I can’t!” You can fix a broken window, you can fix a flat tire, and you can fix a leaky sink. However, broken people need to fix themselves. That is a word right there! Receive it! Recently, I reconnected with a boo thang from college. Things between him and I never got right in college because I graduated ahead of him and moved on with my life. However, things are different now I’m about to move to the areas he’s in. I’m single, he’s single and when we reconnected at the event there was definitely chemistry. So I asked myself, what the heck why not go for it?

Acceptance

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Acceptance By: Ryan D. Daniels
“I don’t care about you. I don’t even think about you. I’ve moved on and I’m happy. I have a girlfriend, we’re happy.” A few days ago I was on the receiving end of those words. They didn’t sting as much as I thought they would it was more so like a small pinch.
It is widely believed that there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depressing, and lastly there is acceptance.

Why Letting Go Of Magical Thinking Allowed Me Happiness

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Why Letting Go Of Magical Thinking Allowed Me Happiness By: Ryan D. Daniels
“This is your life. This is your life. This is your life.” This the mantra I repeat to myself every morning when I first wake up and look in my bathroom mirror. This is my life. My raggedy car, my oddly shaped body, my stressful job, the cold other side of my bed, and the list goes on of the things that encompass my life. This is my life.

Why I Stopped Auditioning

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Why I Stopped Auditioning By: Ryan D. Daniels
Originally posted on September 24, 2016

A man wants a woman who has her own, a woman who can cook, a woman who keeps herself up, a woman who is this, a woman who is that. At one point in time I saw myself at least in a happy and stable relationship by the time I was 25. Every time I became halfway serious with a guy I started auditioning for the wife role—cooking and doing whatever in between to make him realize I was the “one”. However, as my 26th birthday draws nigh I realized something the man who is meant for me isn’t going to need for me to audition.

Diary of a Mad NC Teacher

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Diary of a Mad NC Teacher
By: Ryan D. Daniels


Another school year is quickly approaching and I’m spending a fraction of my time preparing my lessons, another fraction of my time studying for the LSAT (again), and another fraction is spent on me revamping my résumé and submitting applications to jobs outside of teaching.  No, it is not that I don’t like teaching. I actually love teaching, I love working with kids, and I love being able to have a positive impact in the lives of our future leaders. However, let’s talk about what I do not like and why I would quit my teaching job in a heartbeat if the option arose and I don’t care if people judge me for it.

The 5 Things I Wish I Knew in 2009

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The 5 Things I Wish I Knew in 2009 (My Ode to the High School Graduates of 2017) By: Ryan D. Daniels
Times has a funny way of flying by without us even realizing it until we decide to pop our head up from whatever task we’ve dedicated ourselves to and we realize that days, weeks, months, or years have passed by since some significant milestone occurred. That’s how I feel about my high school graduation. I graduated from high school on June 9, 2009 and in the eight years that have lapsed since then I have done a lot of living and a whole lot of learning inside and outside of a classroom.
I remember who my graduation speaker was but I don’t remember what she spoke about. To be honest, I feel like most high school graduation speakers rely on the same script: quote some random current slang or some current hip hop song to seem relatable to youth, drudge up some old clichés, or use some old anecdotes; sometimes effectively and sometimes not so effectively. I have been to or livestreamed at lea…