So Where's My Happy Ending?
So Where’s
My Happy Ending?
By: Honey, The Writer
So you’ve prayed,
you’ve fasted, you’ve cried, and then you prayed some more but what you want
still hasn’t come to fruition. You’ve read every relationship book under the sun
but you still haven’t attracted Mr. Right. But it seems like your news feed and
timeline are full of happy couples. Things like this can cause you to have a
crisis of faith and question where exactly is your happy ending. Honestly this
is exactly where I am currently in my life’s journey.
My friends are getting engaged,
married, or are happy in relationships. And currently I can’t even meet a man
that can hold a conversation. I am honestly and genuinely happy for those
around me. One of the guiding philosophies of my life is seeing those around me
happy and prospering makes me immensely happy and I hope people have the same
kind of attitude about me. But even through my happiness for others I can’t
help but wonder where exactly my happy ending is. And recently I had a crisis
of faith; I’d given up. I stopped going to church and disconnected from
meaningful friendships then fell into a depression and threw myself a pity
party.
Thankfully I snapped out of it and
realized that just because I’m ready for something doesn’t necessary mean it’s
ready for me. I’m a very special person
not in a vain sense but I’m different from a lot of mid-20 somethings. I’m a
single mother, very opinionated, and very quirky. I came to realize that most
guys my age don’t have the maturity to deal with my various idiosyncrasies.
Even though I know I’m ready for a relationship of substance who I need
probably isn’t ready for me. So in your desire for a relationship keep this in
mind. Yes, you may be ready for a real relationship and a relationship of
substance. But is the person that you need packaged up and ready to go? If not,
learn how to wait but in the meantime truly and honestly enjoy yourself and
take care of yourself.
The worst thing I did was wallow in
self-pity and throw myself a pathetic pity party inviting negative thoughts and
in return shrouding myself in a negative aura attracting more negativity. I had
to shake it off! I got back into the gym, I traveled (even if it was just out
of town to grab a bite to eat), and I poured my energy into the things I love
(my daughter and my writing). Never allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself.
Find a way to put things into perspective. I hate to sound cliché but things
could be worse. Don’t focus on the things you don’t have focus on the things
you DO have and be thankful for
them.
Also never settle for less than what
you deserve (know what you deserve and demand it). You’re a queen and you
shouldn’t be fucking with the court jester. Remember this acronym F.L.Y. (FIRST LOVE YOURSELF). Before considering loving someone else make
sure you truly and immensely love yourself and the love you deserve will come.
No, your Prince Charming may not
pull up on the scene today in a 7-series BMW in an Armani suit but he is
coming. He is somewhere being crafted and perfected to fulfill your needs (some
which you didn’t even realize you had). Be faithful, stay hopeful, and most
importantly stay positive. Find your passion! What if you had to do it for free
still makes you happy?
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