The One (Sure) Sign He Is Into You
By: Ryan D. Daniels
I started to write a list of signs that a man is into you but I decided to keep it short and sweet. I decided to avoid rehashing the numerous “How To Know a Guy Is Into You” List. I was able to boil it down to one sure sign a man is into you.
Here’s the scene: a man and a woman are sitting on a couch watching some random movie on Netflix. They’ve been on a few dates, she’s really feeling him and he’s really feeling her. They text and talk on a daily basis; she’s a bit nervous but she finally parts her lips and ask him, “What are we?”
Sound familiar? I’m sure at some point are another we’ve asked ourselves this question and then tried to cover it in our minds by saying we were just asking just so we can make sure we could still do other things with other people. But let’s be real we wouldn’t ask that question if we weren’t actually feeling dude.
However, from my own experience I know that if a man is really into you, you never have to have that “What are we” conversation. The quickest way to know if a man is into you or not and that sign is HE IS INTENTIONAL.
A man who is truly into you will never make you wonder where y’all are heading. His intentions are clear not only through his actions but also through his words. A man that is truly into you will never move in a manner that is conflicting or confusing. A man who is truly into you will not send ambiguous signals. You won’t have to spend hours deciphering what his text messages meant.
I will NEVER, EVER proclaim to be an expert on men but I’ve been through enough with them to halfway understand how they think (Sadly, it’s always been in hindsight). However, reflecting upon my experiences I always knew when a man was into me. Men who were into me proactively made plan; I never had to prompt him with a “What are you doing this weekend? Want to go out?” When a man was into me I never felt confused about his intentions there were no smoke screens, there were no ambiguous “We’ll sees.”; men that were into me told me what they wanted no ifs, no ands, no buts, nor maybes.
Men know exactly what they want and a lot of the times they have sized us up before the first day even arrives. Contrary to popular belief, men know exactly what they want and when they find it they are intentional in their actions; they’re not freestyling it, they’re not going with the slow, they are making moves and making shit happen. It may not be a full court press but you never find yourself wondering how he feels about you, his actions clearly tell you. Are you always finding yourself making the plans or suggestions for dates? Have you asked him where are y’all going and his answer is “We’ll see”? Is he asking you to be patient and y’all will be together?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, simply put he’s not into you and you’re serving as a placeholder until he meets someone he is intentional about or until he gets bored with you and he’s find a new placeholder. A man who wants to make you his will clearly state this, you don’t have to guess or pray for ESP or telepathic abilities.
I have wasted a lot of time with unintentional men. Sometimes I misread cues, sometimes on a subconscious level I just knew, and other times I blatantly knew he wasn’t that at to me. But the common thread was his intentionality. I used to psych myself out and say, “Well, I’m sure he likes me. We spend time together. We go out on dates. We talk everyday. He’s just taking his time. He isn’t ready.”
What I know now is a man is ready for who he is ready for. He doesn’t need time to see. He doesn’t need time to figure it out. He doesn’t need time, period.
Do not let any of them sell you a wooden nickel, sis.
My theme for 2018 is Reclaiming My Time. I want y’all to have this same energy.
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