Self-Care Ain’t Chocolate, Wine, and Retail Therapy
3) Cutting Off Toxic People: Over the past few months, I started cutting off people who were killing me on a mental level, sometimes unintentionally on their part (they were holding me up in my own toxic behaviors and okaying me making poor or harmful decisions). Toxic people are those who are standing in the way of you achieving your goals, intentionally or unintentionally. They are negative, they are jealous, they may hold you up in your toxic behaviors or poor decisions, or they may just be someone who straight up just makes you feel crappy. Learn how to be okay with cutting people off who do not have your best interest at heart. You can't love yourself if you're allowing people who don't actually love you be in your circle.
4) Limiting Social Media: Jasmine just posted about getting a new job. Meanwhile, you are still working at TJ Maxx while trying to find something full time with your degree. Keisha just posted a picture of she and Derek on baecation in Jamaica. Meanwhile, you can’t even get a text back. Ashley just posted about getting that new Benz. Meanwhile, you’re still driving your 2004 Hyundai. Now you’re sitting there looking at your timeline in your feelings. I don’t give a damn what anyone says constantly being on social media wrecks havoc on your mental wellbeing especially if you are not where you want to be in life. Love yourself enough to know when to log out and take a break.
5) Practice Time Management: Loving yourself means keeping a calendar and prioritizing your time in a manner that does not stress you out or add extra stress to your already hectic schedule. Learn how to say no to events or time commitments, temporary or long term, that will inconvenience you or put added stress on you. Take time out to rest and just do nothing. Plan your time use so you don’t feel like you’re always behind the eight ball.
6) Change Your Self-Talk: “Ugh, I’m so stupid.” “I’m so fat.” “No one likes me.” “I’m going to be single forever.” No one else said this about you, you said this about yourself. How do you expect others to see the best in you when you don’t see it in yourself? Changing your self-talk is not easy and it takes time. For me, it has taken A LOT of time but hey, I'm working on it. Create a mantra, write it on a post-it note, put it somewhere that you will have to see it every morning first thing in the morning. Say it until you wholeheartedly believe it! Taking care of yourself means fully loving yourself by being patient and kind to and with yourself. You are allowed to simultaneously be a work in progress and a masterpiece.